How I created my own happiness

Happiness! It’s easy to say be happy to someone and it’s easy to think that, just like that we can turn it around and be happy ourselves, with life’s lessons and it’s teachings many of us do not understand why we experience what we go through, many who are not awake to their spiritual path will be blinded by the illusions that society and our upbringing has taught us, from something small like a phobia of spiders to why our relationships keep failing!

For example the spider phobia, as a child if you see your parents run scared of a spider and kill it and say they are poisonous and can kill you with a bite and tell you some lame story, we take what they say as a teaching and when you see it again and again you are left with the thought that maybe they are poisonous and they are dangerous and you take that part of someone else and you make it your own belief..without having your own experience! And the same goes with happiness, we see others especially on television and social media hype up things like this and it is something we believe without again experiencing it ourselves, take for example on social media you see others with flashy cars posing with expensive material things saying that they were unhappy so they purchased this and that and that it made their day and made them happy, but truthfully how long did it make them happy for? A week or a few day even! Again social media and television show this a lot, they show is that if your unhappy..go buy something to make your self happy! As parents we do this to our own children without knowing we are doing it, if your child is unhappy we go buy them something or give them money and send them to the shops to cheer them selfs up rather than promoting something like a skilful habit that they can get in to to create their happiness from within like painting or football!

Too many of us look to material items and other people to make us happy and when you do that you are handing them the power of control on a huge aspect of your life, what is that aspect your thinking? Well it’s only your “happiness”! Yes your happiness..they are your reason to be happy but what if they leave? What if you centred your whole world around someone and never truly gave your self the attention to do with a passion the things you want to do? What will you fall back on when you are alone?

On my spiritual journey I have been through this phase, my own relationship broke and I suddenly went from having everything to having nothing but myself, I did not have a hobby to fall back on to help me through my addictions and without the individual who I centred my life around I was lost because they were the happiness I created but when we broke up it wasn’t something I could leave with so just like that it went!

It wasn’t until after my awakening and strong guidance from my spirit family that I realised that I handed my happiness in to the hands of others and since then I have been buying my happiness with material items I now do not even look at!

My happiness now comes from within me, I found passion in discovering my true souls identity, who I really am and what I am here to do with all that I have at my disposal. I found what really excites my soul and I now do more for myself and love my self more than I ever have, I have re-claimed my power and have found ways that make me happy from the inside and the best thing about it all is “it is mine and no one can take it away” because it’s created within me, no one can leave and take my happiness..I don’t buy material possessions I don’t need to make me happy..I simply do what excites my soul and realised that nothing is impossible.

The things that I do now are things that drive me wild in a passionate way, I started to meditate and fell in love with the effects of it on the mind, to sit and breath and clear the mind was exactly what I needed, from there I got a calling to try yoga by the spirit world..and I absolutely fell in love with the whole idea of yoga and it’s undeniably beautiful healing effects..I then discovered I had blasted my third eye wide open thanks to the blessing of my awakening and from there I really took flight and got in to spiritualism strongly, I began to read and write and practise many new and soul exciting ways of living and being, I later discovered through meditation that I am an open channel for clairvoyance and that one thing opened my mind up completely to a whole new world!

So as you can see, all these things that I found, all the things that found me are all about me connecting with myself, it allowed me to see my real soul through my self in a way that I have never experienced before, I was creating a whole new world of happiness within myself witch was only for me to enjoy and it is something no one can take away!

To find your happiness in life it is so important you express your creativity and your desires, you can live for others but with doing that ask yourself this question

“who will live for you, whilst you live for someone else”?

Find your happiness within yourself through things you love to do, all those thoughts of “I wouldn’t mind doing that” or “I could try that” stop thinking and give it a shot, it could be your calling or even your outlet from life where you can truly be yourself and have so much fun it becomes your own passion!

There are many ways to create happiness, but seeking it from outside of yourself is not something I would recommend, it keeps a part of you in the dark, you could be the spark the world needs, when you discover your true passions it could turn in to your life’s purpose.

Here are 16 ways you can create your own happiness today!

1. Remember That You Are In Charge of Your Own Happiness

You have two choices in any dead-end job: find another one or make the most of the one you’re stuck with. Either way, your happiness is up to you and no one else. Remind yourself of this anytime you’re feeling stuck.

2. Don’t Obsess over Things You Can’t Control

It’s good to know how Greece’s economic troubles might affect US markets or that your company could merge with its largest competitor, but there’s a big difference between understanding these larger forces and worrying about them. Happy people are ready and informed, but they don’t allow themselves to fret over things that are beyond their pay grades.

3. Don’t Compare Yourself to Other People

When your sense of pleasure and satisfaction are derived from comparing yourself to others, you are no longer the master of your own happiness. When you feel good about something that you’ve done, don’t allow anyone’s opinions or accomplishments take that away from you.

While it’s impossible to turn off your reactions to what others think of you, you don’t have to compare yourself to others, and you can always take people’s opinions with a grain of salt. That way, no matter what other people are thinking or doing, your self-worth comes from within. Regardless of what people think of you at any particular moment, one thing is certain—you’re never as good or bad as they say you are.

4. Reward Yourself

Working hard is important, but never allowing yourself to take a break is detrimental to your happiness. A study of radiologists found that they made more accurate diagnoses when they received small rewards prior to reviewing patients’ charts. A Cornell study found that small rewards make people more generous, friendly, and happy. These small “thrills” also made people more productive and accurate in their work. Rewards activate the pleasure pathway in your brain, even if they are self-induced. Effective rewards can be small things such as taking a walk down the hall or eating a snack.

5. Exercise During the Work Week

Getting your body moving for as little as 10 minutes releases GABA, a soothing neurotransmitter that also limits impulsivity. A University of Bristol study showed that people who exercised on workdays reported improvements in time management, mood, and performance. The benefits of exercise always outweigh the time lost in its pursuit.

6. Don’t Judge and Gossip

Judging other people and speaking poorly of them is a lot like overindulging in a decadent dessert; it feels good while you’re doing it, but afterwards, you feel guilty and sick. When you’re tempted to speak of someone else in a way that might be negative, just ask yourself if you’d want someone saying the same about you.

7. Choose Your Battles Wisely

Emotionally intelligent people know how important it is to live to fight another day. In conflict, unchecked emotion makes you dig your heels in and fight the kind of battle that can leave you severely damaged and unhappy for some time to come. When you read and respond to your emotions, you’re able to choose your battles wisely and only stand your ground when the time is right.

8. Stay True to Yourself

Crossing moral boundaries in the name of success is a sure-fire path to unhappiness. Violating your personal standards creates feelings of regret, dissatisfaction, and demotivation. Know when to stand your ground and express dissent when someone wants you to do something that you know you shouldn’t. When you’re feeling confused, take some time to review your values and write them down. This will help you to locate your moral compass.

9. Clear the Clutter

I don’t need to remind you of how much time you spend at work. Take a good look at your workspace. You should create a space that’s soothing and uplifting. Whether it’s a picture of your family, a plant, or an award that you’re proud of, display them prominently to keep them on your mind. Get rid of the junk and clutter that hold no significance and do nothing positive for your mental state.

10. Give Someone A Hand

Taking the time to help your colleagues not only makes them happy, but it also makes you happy. Helping other people gives you a surge of oxytocin, serotonin, and dopamine, all of which create good feelings. In a Harvard study, employees who helped others were 10 times more likely to be focused at work and 40% more likely to get a promotion. The same study showed that people who consistently provided social support were the most likely to be happy during times of high stress. As long as you make certain that you aren’t overcommitting yourself, helping others is sure to have a positive influence on your happiness.

11. Let Your Strengths Flow

A University of Chicago study of peak performance found that people who were able to reach an intense state of focus, called flow, reaped massive benefits. Flow is the state of mind in which you find yourself completely engrossed in a project or task, and you lose awareness of the passage of time and other external distractions. Flow is often described as an exhilarating state in which you feel euphoria and mastery simultaneously. The result is not just happiness and productivity but also the development of new skills through a heightened state of learning. The key to reaching flow lies in organizing your tasks such that you have immediate and clear goals to pursue that play to your strengths. As you begin working on these tasks, your focus increases along with your feelings of adequacy. In time, you reach a flow state, in which productivity and happiness flourish. Set clear goals each day and experiment with task order until you find the secret formula that gets you flowing.

12. Smile and Laugh More

A study at Mannheim University in Germany demonstrated that we can actually manipulate our emotions by changing our facial expressions. One group of participants held a pen in their mouth horizontally, which forces a smile. When asked to rate how funny a cartoon was, the participants holding pens in their mouths found the cartoons much funnier than participants without pens.

As the study shows, it doesn’t matter if your smile is genuine because your facial expression can precede the feeling. If you find yourself in a negative spiral at work, slow down and smile or watch a funny video on YouTube. This mood boost can turn your day around.

13. Stay Away From Negative People

Complainers and negative people are bad news because they wallow in their problems and fail to focus on solutions. They want people to join their pity party so that they can feel better about themselves. People often feel pressure to listen to complainers because they don’t want to be seen as callous or rude, but there’s a fine line between lending a sympathetic ear and getting sucked into their negative emotional spirals. You can avoid getting drawn in only by setting limits and distancing yourself when necessary. Think of it this way: If a person were smoking, would you sit there all afternoon inhaling the second-hand smoke? You’d distance yourself, and you should do the same with negative people. A great way to set limits is to ask them how they intend to fix their problems. The complainer will then either quiet down or redirect the conversation in a productive direction.

14. Laugh at Yourself

When you take yourself too seriously at work your happiness and performance suffer. Don’t be afraid to show a little vulnerability. Something as simple as laughing at yourself draws people to you because it shows them that you’re humble and grounded (it also keeps them from laughing behind your back). Happy people balance their self-confidence with a good sense of humor and humility.

15. Cultivate an Attitude of Gratitude

It’s all too easy to get caught up in things that could have been different or didn’t turn out the way you wanted them to. Sometimes the best way to pull your mind away from negativity is to step back and contemplate what you’re grateful for. Taking time to reflect on the good in your life improves your mood because it reduces the stress hormone cortisol by 23%. Research conducted at the University of California, Davis, found that people who worked daily to cultivate an attitude of gratitude experienced improved mood, energy, and physical wellbeing

16. Believe the Best Is Yet to Come

Don’t just tell yourself that the best is yet to come—believe it. Having a positive, optimistic outlook on the future doesn’t just make you happier; it also improves your performance by increasing your sense of self-efficacy. The mind has a tendency to magnify past pleasure to such a great degree that the present pales in comparison. This phenomenon can make you lose faith in the power of the future to outdo what you’ve already experienced. Don’t be fooled. Believe in the great things the future has in store.

Bringing It All Together

Applying these strategies won’t just improve your happiness at work; most of them will also improve your emotional intelligence. Pick those that resonate with you and have fun with them.

 

So there you have it, how I found my worth within myself by myself! You can do great things when you truly believe in yourself, your more than just a physical body, you are everything inside a physical body, the universe you see is projecting what you are within your self.

I am Taj Anota and I hope you enjoyed this article, thank you so much for taking the time to read, I appreciate your time and I truly hope this helped.

Peace love and god bless.

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